Christian Dating: Lessons & Convictions | by Anda Su | UWCCF | Medium
It’s quite funny looking back on that discussion I had with a friend just as we both started university. While I predicted the “results” pretty accurately, I was totally wrong when it came to the… Obviously, I’m writing this as a man who has never dated before. So instead of just yapping about my opinions and ideals, I’ve got the help of Pastor Jacob Reaume from Trinity Bible Chapel, who’ll share his thoughts in the form of an interview later in this blog. I’ll also include some nuggets of wisdom that I’ve heard from many other Christian couples!I think that there is a tendency to settle once people check off the “Christian” box. But I think that is a really low bar to hit. Instead, I think the fundamentals of successful dating are the following: clarity, sanctification, and community. I define clarity quite simply: gaining certainty in whether or not to move forward with marriage. This means that if the dating phase comes to an end, and you know that both of you are headed into marriage, you’ve gained clarity and have successfully dated.And so she started to pray every day that I would become a Christian. And it was through that time that God really began to work in my heart. And I read through the Bible and I became saved, and I fell in love with her, but she didn’t reciprocate in that aspect. So I prayed for a few years that if it was God’s will that she would turn around, and she did. And then she fell in love with me. And we were about 17 at that point. And so I’d say we dated for about two years.Thoughts from both a single man and a married man.
